I’m a Man That Cries (and That’s Okay)

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Is it just me or do you cry at random parts of the movie when no one else is? And everyone looks at you like you’re super weird?

I’ve realized that about myself recently when watching movies. And no one knows how to make people cry like they do at Pixar. Those people really know how to get to ya. It’s almost like they have a formula down or something.

I watched Coco recently and anyone who’ve seen it knows the scene I’m talking about. I won’t spoil it, but it’s that part with the grandmother, right? And the kid, and the song?? I’m tearing up just thinking about it. That’s normal.

Weird people like me actually cried when the aunt accidentally ended up on stage and sang for the first time in a long time. I was balling.

Why? Well, I don’t know. To be honest, I’m writing this to see who out there might also have their emotions out of whack. If not that movie, or show, or book, or real life scenario, was there a moment where you got emotional at different times than everyone else?

We Cry For Beauty

In the case of the aunt in Coco, she was a singer, she loved singing, but decided to give it up. You’ll have to watch the movie to understand why, but the moment she finally sang again was so beautiful I literally cried.

I know it sounds like an exaggeration, but it’s true. At first when it happened, I was embarrassed. I got up to use the bathroom so my friends wouldn’t see me crying at an seemingly innocuous part of the movie.

Or maybe I am the only one and I just have overly sensitive tear ducts and should probably get that checked..

Or maybe I’ve been suppressing my emotions for so long that my body is telling me that I need to be more expressive. I need to perform. I need to experience more human emotions.

What Should We Do About It?

Human emotions are strange things, something we still don’t completely understand. But we do know that every individual expresses and perceives it differently.

Having that said, I’ll admit that I’ve been bottling up my thoughts and feelings for a while now and it has only left me with anxiety, low self-esteem, and the ability to connect with others on a deeper level.

I’ve recently found my outlets. I’ve learned to be comfortable with vulnerability. I’m seeking discomfort. I’m putting myself out there, reaching out to people, expressing myself. Writing and journaling is also a great tool for me.

When your emotions are out of whack, I encourage you to be honest with yourself. Sit with it. Embrace it. Don’t try to push it away. Don’t listen to those voices that are making fun of you. Don’t think that you have to “stay positive,” or “keep it together” all. The. Time. Let yourself feel whatever you’re feeling. Then have fun with it!

Talk to Someone About It

For that, I encourage you to reach out to a therapist or coach. They provide the safe space for you to fully express everything and give you the tools and strategies for working through them.

Talk to you next time!

Originally published at victorung.com on January 22, 2019.

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